We saw it with our own relatives. I will come back to this tomorrow. I am cream crackered and will sleep on a solution. The whole idea of not keeping people at home with homecare Services first is about having development houses to sell. I am very cynical about the elderly care system. Even with the excellent care my Mother in Law got at her final home.
24th Apri. 2018. I am still not ready to tackle this subject. I have such deep seated emotional issues to work through before talking about our experiences. The worst is th Liverpool Care pathway My Husbands Aunt suffered this was just a callous, awful route of despatch I can’t speak about it. I need more time.
My Mothers route of dispatch was far more traumatic for the rest of Her life. But my Mother had no-one to council her. She just followed Her gut instinct. She said she could not imagine Her First Husband wanting to live as a paralysed person. Unable to speak, unable to communicate. Her reasoning was that if the machine was switched off He would die. So she had the courage to switch off the machine. She let Him go. A brave woman my Mother. To Her, Her first Husband was everything. But not as a shell. A presence. Not participating in His Life. It was an extreme situation. In a new dynamic of medicine. Her decision was the one everyone had to accept. Except she never accepted it Herself.
If someone’s life is going to end in the case of Aunty Lucille, Surely Ten days of their personal agony. Their holding on for ten days without water, except to moisten ther lips is a cruel way to die. The fluid drip should have been left in. No food, but just a fluid. If she could have recovered she would have. She just needed the fluids. If it was her time she would have died anyway. She was in a separate ward as they said she had MRSA. So why were we allowed in to hold her hand. I was so angry and still am about this Liverpool care pathway. This is not the way to die. Aunty didn’t deserve this. It was the most awful time to live through together. She could hear me until the end. People should be made comfortable to die. Family need to come together to acknowledge this dear persons life, their contribution to their own lives. Being part of the death of a person is such a privilege. The closest, dearest people nearby to allow this dear person to be calm and delivered into God’s hand. To spend Eternity with Him. The moment they leave their last breath is the moment they begin to soar like an Eagle in God’s Kingdom. well Aunty Lu did. And does. She is a wonderful disciple of Christ. She gave Her whole Life in Service to Christ.
We just don’t seem to have the right relationship to death and suffering in the Medical Profession. Sometimes getting ‘Better’ is not what someone needs. A death with dignity is the culmination of our life. Why do we avoid this subject? I will get thrown in a psychiatric unit if I bring this one up... Any time I call out the reality everyone else feels comfortable with, I get sectioned. ... I need more time to deal with this.